I’ve recently found myself in a complicated situation. When I went to ask for help from someone I care for, I realized I had no idea how to ask. I wanted desperately to tell this person that I needed them, but I was both unsure and unconfident about where to begin. I knew if I said I needed help they wouldn’t hesitate to be by my side, but I couldn’t gather the courage. What I’ve learned about myself is I’m extremely deflective of all my pain like many others.
When I am unable to handle something completely alone I often feel incompetent or weak. Nobody finds comfort in these feelings. I frequently forget that many people have empathy for me and would do their best to help me in any way they can. Even in the darkest moments of my life I have never asked for help.
Being capable of handling a situation yourself and being confident that you can ask for help is so important. Often, we deflect our feelings and downplay the most difficult things in our lives because we don’t know what else to do. We become fearful that others will be uncomfortable or reject us in our time of need, causing us to become increasingly more vulnerable.
What we forget is that most of the people in our lives love and care for us more than we know. People have a hard time showing their true feelings just like they have a hard time asking for help. Many of us wouldn’t hesitate to bend over backwards to help someone we care for, so why don’t we have the same faith in those that care for us?
Put good energy into the world, and put confidence in your people.